Chapter 2- Parenting Patterns and the Impact of Culture and Context

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Bio:  Hello!....My name is Oscar Garcia.  I was born in Colombia South America in 1980.  I had my first child, Daniel, at the age of 19.  My second when I was 27, Isabella.  I never bothered to check what type of parenting style I am until this assigment.  My interest in parenting is very high, as I have 2 children, I want to be the best parent to my kids, so they can be the best parents to their children and so on. 

The following poem is a poem writen by a girl, Charlise Butner, the way she was raised.  This is the way I am raising my children, with love:

I Wasn't Raised

I wasn't raised in a mansion
Or fed with a silver spoon
I wasn't brought up to think money is everything
Because only fools believe that’s true
I wasn't raised to live out my parents dream
But to proudly dream my own
I wasn't raised to walk the popular path
But to strongly pave my own
I wasn't raised with material things
But something great indeed
I was raised with love
And love is all I need

Source: Raised With Love, Parent Poems http://www.familyfriendpoems.com/poem/raised-with-love#ixzz1V2xrYkJI
Family Friend Poems

 

The following article is by Susan Manning, the founder of parent USA city.  The article is called "What is your parenting style?  And can be found at http://parentusacity.com/  I like this article because it explains what type of parent style she has in a good detail.  and after reading it and comparing it to chapter 2 in the textbook, i have found that I have a mixed parenting style.

 

Check out this video found at youtube about parenting styles:  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aHCX6j_OFoE

 

Studies in the United States have identified 6 different parenting styles:  Authoritative, Authoritarian, Permissive, Traditional, Indulgent and Indifferent.  One of the main parenting styles identified by Baumrind is known as the authoritative parenting style. This style of parenting is sometimes referred to as "democratic" and involves a child-centric approach in which parents hold high expectations for their children.

Characteristics of Authoritative parents:
- Listen to their children
- Encourage independence
- Place limits, consequences and expectations on their children's behavior
- Express warmth and nurturance
- Allow children to express opinions
- Encourage children to discuss options
- Administer fair and consistent discipline

Effects of Authoritative Parenting
Child development experts generally identify the authoritative parenting style as the "best" approach to parenting. Children raised by authoritative parents tend to be more capable, happy and successful.
children of authoritative parents:
- Tend to have a happier dispositions
- Have good emotional control and regulation
- Develop good social skills
- Are self-confident about their abilities to learn new skills

Characteristics of Authoritarian Parents

- Have strict rules and expectations.
- Very demanding, but not responsive.
- Don't express much warmth or nurturing.
- Utilize punishments with little or no explanation.
- Don't give children choices or options.

Effects of Authoritarian Parenting

- Tend to associate obedience and success with love.
- Some children display more aggressive behavior outside the home.
- Others may act fearful or overly shy around others.
- Often have lower self-esteem.
- Have difficulty in social situations.

Characteristics of Permissive Parenting

- Have few rules or standards of behavior
- When there are rules, they are often very inconsistent
- Are usually very nurturing and loving towards their kids
- Often seem more like a friend, rather than a parent.
- May use bribery such as toys, gifts and food as a means to get child to behave

Effects of Permissive Parenting

- Lack self-discipline
- Sometimes have poor social skills
- May be self-involved and demanding
- May feel insecure due to the lack of boundaries and guidance

Characteristics of  Traditional Parents

- Parental support is High
- Parentel Control is strict
- Expectations of maturity is High

Effects of Traditional Parents

- Self-disciplined
- Good social skills
- Feels secure

Characteristics of  indulegent Parents

- High responsiveness
- low demandingness
- highest in involvement
- lowest in strictness
- Do not provide limits and guideliness

Effects of indulegent Parents

- Irresponsible
- Immature
- Risk behaviors

Characteristics of  indifferent Parents

- Uninvolved
- Uninterested
- Required little of their children
- Express little love or concern

Characteristics of  indifferent Parents

- Aggresiveness
- Antisocial behavior problems
- Poor academic behavior

- Delinquency